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Thursday, January 7, 2010

Body Language Advice Can Help

By Alan Bentley

Few of us exude the ultimate in self-confidence, especially when we are getting ready to go out on a new date. It's natural to be nervous, excited and to anticipate what could be the start of a long and fruitful relationship and it is normal to feel the butterflies in your stomach. You tend to worry about how you will project yourself and what he will think of you after the first date.

If you are a worrier at heart, you may be seeking a lot of body language advice for your first meeting with the cute guy you have always had your eye on. People say that you can tell a lot about someone just by looking at body language and how do you know whether he is a body language advice expert to start off with!

We can learn from body language advice experts who tell us that we need to come from a position of dominance whenever we meet somebody. This is not to say that you should be aggressive, but rather assertive, as natural confidence appears very palatable to others. Talking a lot does not cut it as a picture will always tell 1000 words. Subconsciously, you won't get the message across.

Whether we like it or not, first impressions and instant decisions are a part of our lives. When we get those certain "vibes" we're never sure what they actually mean, but subconsciously we need to listen to body language advice as this can help us during those crucial moments.

Maintaining eye contact is the rule number one when listening to body language advice. It is absolutely essential that you do this as it says a lot about a person.Looking at somebody squarely in the eye is a deliberate action and should not be underestimated. Remember not to break your gaze until after he does, as otherwise it is seen as an act of submission.

Don't be rude when you are talking to somebody and focus on other things, be they checking your mail, writing a text, watching the TV or cooking something on the stove. You need to give that person your undivided attention, quite apart from it being rude not to do so.

Look at your posture often. If you find that you are slouching, when you are sitting or standing, it's time to crank up your workout regime. Focus on standing up straight and taking long deep breaths. This will markedly help the way that you appear and appeal to others.

When we are presented with a potentially awkward moment, we often resort to nervous gestures to help us. Try and find your inner calm before you go out on that date and don't engage in nervous twitches, tapping hand gestures and other moments that can be so distracting.

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