Starting out a new life can be nerve-racking. You could be only a few minutes away from changing your life and still cannot figure out why you want to do so and if you are truly ready for the change. You then start to panic and sometimes your mind goes crazy trying to find last minute answers.
Could I run away? I did not think so. The reason why was sitting at the front pew, wearing her new red dress, smiling widely and bending her silvery black head to chat unintelligibly to her neighbor. Excited, happy, and not a little exhausted with what all these Herculean efforts to arrange her eldest son's wedding; my mother.
Exhaling a mournful sigh, I earned a look from the priest and a teasing poke (ouch!) from the best man, my brother. Even without turning around, I could see his grin. "Wait till it is your turn," I muttered to myself.
It was not that I was against the institution of marriage. It was not that I was not attracted to my wife-to-be, albeit ours was an arranged match. I did. I just felt as a young energetic thirty year old, I still wanted my freedom. Needless to say, I did not suffer from any Bridget Jones-like complex. My fiance and I have discussed extensively and we agreed to remain unattached as long as possible. But Mother changed her mind with the all powerful warning, "Time and tide wait for no one". Honestly, the truth be told, I was not a little apprehensive of major changes.
Parents can go to the extend of begging their kids to settle down. Their most common excuse would be that they want to see their grandchildren before they move on to the next life. That is why some kids force themselves into a marriage even before they feel that they are not ready for this life changing contract.
To back out of the arrangement was out of the question. Everything was set including the most intricate details of design and decoration. Painstaking drudgery was completed so it would be a waste to just abandon it. First, going through the photo taking session was unbearable enough particularly when the two had to force smile all the way through. Then it was the dreadful shopping list. How exhausting, he felt as if he was shopping for the entire armed forces. Actually that would have been so much easier! For god sake no one would care what the theme of the cake should be.
His mother in reply to his question as he remembered, although nobody would notice the small things that they had put effort into, people tend to note it more in their absence.
The man could no longer argue with his mother.
The most outrageous thing he figured was the bill for the bridal fashion and jewelry. The bill alone was enough to choke him. What on earth was it that his fiance ordered from the bridal shop? He figured she must have bought two seasons wardrobe from there.
"Trump, tum, ta, ta " I was jarred out of my wild imaginings as the organ pealed out the dreaded song - "Here comes ."
As the music played, signaling the arrival of the bride, the groom snapped back into reality.
I could not tear my gaze away from her. How could I not - I could see nothing else. The face of my bride, she shyly smiling and poised, eyelashes demurely fixed on her bouquet of white roses. Heavens, did I deserve this angel? Could I give her happiness? Could I be happy?
Three steps away, she lifted her gaze to me. I saw the uncertainty and doubt in her shining eyes replaced by calm tranquility. That singular moment transformed my entire life. In a flash of understanding, I saw that she was giving her life, her trust, her love to me. and how could I return any less?
He took her hand as a sign of a new beginning. They will be joined forever.
The keys to a lasting relationship are understanding and respecting each other. Getting through tough time will be tolerable when couples have learnt how to deal with each problem patiently. Only then can they raise a family with true devotion.
The only thing that a couple need is love and when they realize that they have it they will feel very lucky indeed.
Only then will saying "I do" be as easy as taking one's breath.
Could I run away? I did not think so. The reason why was sitting at the front pew, wearing her new red dress, smiling widely and bending her silvery black head to chat unintelligibly to her neighbor. Excited, happy, and not a little exhausted with what all these Herculean efforts to arrange her eldest son's wedding; my mother.
Exhaling a mournful sigh, I earned a look from the priest and a teasing poke (ouch!) from the best man, my brother. Even without turning around, I could see his grin. "Wait till it is your turn," I muttered to myself.
It was not that I was against the institution of marriage. It was not that I was not attracted to my wife-to-be, albeit ours was an arranged match. I did. I just felt as a young energetic thirty year old, I still wanted my freedom. Needless to say, I did not suffer from any Bridget Jones-like complex. My fiance and I have discussed extensively and we agreed to remain unattached as long as possible. But Mother changed her mind with the all powerful warning, "Time and tide wait for no one". Honestly, the truth be told, I was not a little apprehensive of major changes.
Parents can go to the extend of begging their kids to settle down. Their most common excuse would be that they want to see their grandchildren before they move on to the next life. That is why some kids force themselves into a marriage even before they feel that they are not ready for this life changing contract.
To back out of the arrangement was out of the question. Everything was set including the most intricate details of design and decoration. Painstaking drudgery was completed so it would be a waste to just abandon it. First, going through the photo taking session was unbearable enough particularly when the two had to force smile all the way through. Then it was the dreadful shopping list. How exhausting, he felt as if he was shopping for the entire armed forces. Actually that would have been so much easier! For god sake no one would care what the theme of the cake should be.
His mother in reply to his question as he remembered, although nobody would notice the small things that they had put effort into, people tend to note it more in their absence.
The man could no longer argue with his mother.
The most outrageous thing he figured was the bill for the bridal fashion and jewelry. The bill alone was enough to choke him. What on earth was it that his fiance ordered from the bridal shop? He figured she must have bought two seasons wardrobe from there.
"Trump, tum, ta, ta " I was jarred out of my wild imaginings as the organ pealed out the dreaded song - "Here comes ."
As the music played, signaling the arrival of the bride, the groom snapped back into reality.
I could not tear my gaze away from her. How could I not - I could see nothing else. The face of my bride, she shyly smiling and poised, eyelashes demurely fixed on her bouquet of white roses. Heavens, did I deserve this angel? Could I give her happiness? Could I be happy?
Three steps away, she lifted her gaze to me. I saw the uncertainty and doubt in her shining eyes replaced by calm tranquility. That singular moment transformed my entire life. In a flash of understanding, I saw that she was giving her life, her trust, her love to me. and how could I return any less?
He took her hand as a sign of a new beginning. They will be joined forever.
The keys to a lasting relationship are understanding and respecting each other. Getting through tough time will be tolerable when couples have learnt how to deal with each problem patiently. Only then can they raise a family with true devotion.
The only thing that a couple need is love and when they realize that they have it they will feel very lucky indeed.
Only then will saying "I do" be as easy as taking one's breath.
About the Author:
Rene Lacape has been organizing parties for so many years now. He has done all kinds of events already. He started with birthday parties to corporate parties. If you think you need a hardworking person to handle your events, call on him now.
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